Scorpios have an intensity about the deep roots of life that is unmatched by any sign in the Zodiac. They try to release this passion and intensity slowly to the person of their interest. They know that their intensity can scare people. They try to mask it, finding out as much as they can about their new friend or love interest, feeling out the other person to see if they can handle what the Scorpio can dish out.
The problem is that Cancers can intuit this depth and intensity more than any other sign in the Zodiac. Both signs sense the depth and mystery of the other upon their first meeting, but the mystery and awe only grow as they get to know each other more. Cancer understands that depth because they possess a personal depth as well that is rarely revealed to the outside world. They are more open about the fact that they are deep than Scorpio, but they never fully divulge. But Cancer, being uniquely intuitive like the Scorpio, picks up on the subtle cues that much more lies beneath the Scorpio's surface actions.
It may take some time for Scorpio to realize that Cancer is on to them. They know that they possess the power to keep themselves under wraps, but the fact that Cancer can sense the depths of them, Scorpio is intrigued by the prospect of someone who can understand this intimate part of themselves.
The Scorpio's reaction to Cancer's "knowing" depends on their maturity. An immature Scorpio will become suspicious and reactive, afraid of being found out, which can be dangerous. But the mature Scorpio will take the time to investigate and feel out the Cancer to determine their trustworthiness, and they may be delighted to have found a true soulmate, one that will take the Scorpio's sense of loyalty seriously. If the Scorpio decides to do so, they can dutifully take on the task of "teaching" the perfect soulmate, and as long as the Cancer senses that the Scorpio cares about them deeply and will still allow them a sense of independence and self, will happily take on the role of faithful pupil.
But the process of Scorpio's induction into their world can be unnerving to the Cancer. They may worry constantly about how the Scorpio really feels about them. They will do enough testing of their own to find out. It will bother them that the Scorpio has secrets that they haven't told them. An insecure Cancer will likely not be able to handle this. They may whine and interrogate, and try to manipulate the Scorpio into giving in, which will displease the Scorpio greatly and likely cause the Scorpio to lash out and leave the relationship.
How Cancers can Manage in a Relationship with a Scorpio
In order to survive in a relationship with a Scorpio, the Cancer will need to maintain a strong sense of self. Cancer always has a strong self, they just have such a strong need for love and acceptance that they will bend it temporarily to fit their partner. This ultimately turns out to be unhealthy for the Cancer, and they both partners can become bitter when months into the relationship the Cancer's true nature comes to surface.
Cancer would be wise to show their good traits in the beginning, but to always be true to themselves. In relationship with a Scorpio, Cancer needs to be mature enough to speak up when they feel genuinely hurt, but they need to be able to do it in such a way that does not appear whiny or manipulative. Scorpio is caring and wants to please their partner, and will dutifully meet the Cancer's needs if they sense the Cancer's loyalty and respect.
Cancer needs to stay grounded in this relationship. When the Cancer finds itself obsessing over what Scorpio may be thinking or feeling, they would do well to throw themselves into hobbies that will occupy their mind or spiritual practices that will give them perspective and remind them of their need for personal fulfillment.
The biggest mistake that a Cancer can make is look for all of their personal fulfillment in the Scorpio. The Scorpio will never be available enough for an immature Cancer that has not explored it's own independence. Cancer needs to prove to Scorpio that they can find the deepest intimacy with them, and that Scorpio can release them alone into the world alone for awhile without having to constantly worry about them.
Quick Tips for the Cancer:
- Go on lots of nature walks and self reflect
- Don't get so caught up in the mystery of Scorpio that you neglect the other parts of your personal growth
- Prove to Scorpio that you are on your own spiritual journey (Scorpio will be intrigued, wondering if you know something they don't)
- Never be too available for Scorpio, let them work a little to spend time with you
- Have your own hobbies and interests. Scorpio will find your independence sexy
- Show interest in the Scorpio's life and interests, but never pry
- Never act too coy. Both of you can sense the other's depth, and Scorpio will get annoyed if you always avert his questions. He wants to know you, he wants you to bare your soul to him a little at a time
- Don't let the Scorpio disrespect you on a physical, mental, or spiritual level. He will try, even just to test you. He may lose respect for you if you lose respect for yourself.
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